So, for what it's worth, here are some thoughts from my study of the gospel of Jesus Christ today, specifically from the Book of Mormon.
From verse 26 of chapter seven in Moroni: "...And as surely as Christ liveth he spake these words unto our fathers, saying: Whatsoever thing ye shall ask the Father in my name, which is good, in faith believing that ye shall receive, behold, it shall be done unto you."
As I pondered this scripture and it occurred to me that the only stipulation other than faith, for being granted something is that if it were good. Not “right” or “God’s will” but simply good. So, then I thought about faith - actually believing we will receive it - and I thought that if we are to have that kind of conviction, it has to be something that we really want as well. If it’s good but we don’t really want it to happen, even if we prayed for it, it would not be granted (even if we believed that God COULD grant it to us), because we don’t actually want it to happen, i.e. we are not ready for it...
I think that God gives us what we really want a lot more than we think He does. And when we don’t get the good things that we want, one of the reasons COULD be that we are deceiving ourselves about if we really want that prayer answered. What a powerful thought. That the good things we want, if we KNOW they are good and we KNOW we want them, they can be granted to us. We are creative beings, capable of making good things happen by our faith. Our own brand of good things. Maybe we need to spend a little less time worrying about exactly what God’s plan is for us, or what He wants for us in every little thing and start pondering on what we really want. What do we want to become? What do we want to accomplish with our time on earth? What do we WANT? And when we are sure. Ask.